Boy's public occasion is played with " Chicken's chicken " Parents quite feel awkward (Fig.)

Boy's public occasion is played with " Chicken's chicken " Parents quite feel awkward (Fig.)
Boy's public occasion is played with " Chicken's chicken " Parents quite feel awkward (Fig.)
The preschool child is in to the fascination period of the sex emotion, because experience health and inside, have increased their curiosity to the relevant problem: Where do the baby come from? Why did some people have chicken's chickens and have some people? When the baby stays by oneself, what do Papa and Mama do together? If your child is a good questioner, remember, he has a succession of questions in the head. When the child has reached 3- 6 years old, he is clearer and clearer to the understanding within one's own body: Somewhere have hole, outstanding somewhere, which be a internal one and which external, it is known that oneself is a boy or girl, form the gender comparatively fixed to approve gradually. An awkward one awkward thing of those: Qi Qi and auntie three and a half years old sat on the sofa playing, suddenly Qi Qi caught the auntie's hands, put on one's own chicken chicken, the auntie has really given a start The awkwardness two: It is really unwilling to go to one's own room to sleep alone after smiling at five years old, for a long time, it is willing to go to sleep to climb to Papa and Mama's big bed, but always find and sleep on one's own baby bed, he knows Papa and Mama are after he has fallen asleep while waking up in the morning, have embraced also him, answered on one's own baby bed The awkwardness three: In the clinic of gynaecology of child of children's hospital, doctors have received mother and her six -year-old daughter, mother says sentimentally: "Several children play together, has been filled in several pieces of chalk very beginning by other children in the daughter's vagina, just find a few days later, bleed now and suppurate " Say to the child " Personal secrets " To a lot of parents, how to persuade children not to interfere others' personal secrets space, meanwhile, and also let children understand this kind of curiosity is that a kind of natural normal psychological phenomena that can be accepted is a difficult thing. When a child wishes eagerly to observe or touch your body very much, the wisest method is to accept his curiosity happily, don't make a fuss. It is a kind of natural psychological phenomena of puberty of children instead of the naughty practical joke to pay close attention to the bodies of others earnestly, but we should let the child clear some things should be forbidden. Discuss the importance of personal secrets with him with the language that he can accept: "People do not always like others when they have not worn the clothes or gone to the toilet very much, look at them or touch them. If does not want to be seen or touched by others alone, we should respect the others' hope, as you want they until what you make just. You can express the love to them in other ways. " Should believe your child, he will get a thorough understanding and understand the intension among them gradually. The child 3-6 years old pays close attention to one's own genitals. They begin to realize it is stimulated that a large amount of that the genitals bring is happy, sporting with the genital frequency at this moment increases much more. A lot of children will play with the genitals in the public occasion, make parents feel awkward, for example: The little boy will use and hold one's own one " Chicken's chicken " Walk on the outside. They begin to play with one's own genitals consciously, when they are full of illusion in brain, often take action following on hand. This is a good chance of helping children to understand sexual activity, tell children: "Where Papa and Mama are never careless or do the thing that shouldn't be done in front of other persons, because this is one's own personal secrets. " Improve the occasion to propose " The individual privacy " Require the preschool child is very curious to the thing among parents, how should parents reply? First of all, in any case, the most important thing is to keep calm, do the best to avoid panically and angrily. Parents are often afraid the children witness adult's sexual behavior and the spirit receive the wound - -May be under some environments, the specific child will be like this. In this case, the adult should separate calmly, require children to leave your room, or see him back to the room in person, he wants oneself to sleep in comfort. In that case, child of you will receive obvious injury, in fact, grow up demonstrate panic-stricken to enable the child to be in short! When you sent him back to the room or after the the next day, talk about with him the thing that he sees calm and serene, tell him that you know he may be very curious, make some simple explanations to him, along a theme, " because father and mother are very in love each other, they want to be closer to some sometimes, so should embrace each other, " So as to help children to understand this is that a kind of private one is close to the behavior. And further explain: "Exactly as you know, some private activities are all secret, This is the reason why why we should shut the door. " And utilize this chance, put forward the concrete requirement for respecting the individual privacy clearly: " close the door " Namely mean having " The individual privacy " ,Anyone should knock at the door before entering at this moment, in this way even the child will knock at the door first while really having any urgent things.


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